In the last blog post of the series “How to Get a Girl to Like You” I discussed about taking charge on your first date, and how important it is to be assertive. But part of getting a girl to be interested in you and liking you is to not only showing her that you have a strong confident side, but also to being able to emotionally connect with her.
Share Your Childhood
One of the best ways to emotionally connect with her is to be able to share a detailed story about yourself from your childhood that has personal meaning to you. This is definitely one of the best, tried and true, ways to get a girl interested in you. Now you don’t want to tell an embarrassing story about how you pissed your pants when you were three years old. Yes she might laugh and think that the story is cute, but she’s definitely laughing at you buddy, not with you.
Intrigue her with Your Childhood Story
You want to be able to tell her a childhood story that will draw her attention from the very start. This could be about how you stood up to your first bully when you were 8 years old. Or it could be a story about how your grandmother used to make this delicious food dish that made your mouth water, and only she made it in a special way that no one else could in the world. Tell her how much you miss her smile and her tenderness when she cooked, and it was one of the best memories you had growing up.
But the goal is to hook her in with a great line from the very start. For example, if you both are on the topic about food, then you would go, “Let me tell you about the best thing I’ve ever eaten in my life. My grandmother…” or it could be “There was this time when I was 8 years old where I nearly got a black eye. What happened was…”
Talking about Childhood = Feeling Intimate
Childhood stories are powerful to a girl because our childhood creates a feeling of intimacy when we talk about it with her. It’s a part of our life that usually only our family, and closest friends that we grew up with know about.
Think about your co-workers, how many of them talk about their childhood?
When we share our childhood with a girl that we like, it temporarily brings her into our world. And when you’re able to share vivid details with her, the way I did about my grandmother’s cooking, the smells, the way she smiled, the way her leathery hands were when she stirred the pot, all these details invite her to imagine herself being there.
Imagination is Powerful
Getting her to imagine what you imagine is powerful. Let’s turn it around, what if the girl you’re on a date with turns and talks to you about how she used to be bullied as a child or how she used to be such a nerd in school and tells you these intimate details (without going overboard with too much information). How would you feel? Would you feel that she’s more interesting and attractive? Chances if the story was done right, you’ll feel much more attracted to her.
So next time you’re on a date, go out and share a story from your childhood. Choose a story that you feel has enchanted girls in the past and feel free to keep telling the same story again and again to different girls. In my book Art of Conversation, I mention how important it is to be able to put emotions in your story, and to be able to fill it with rich detail. Invite her into your world!
In the next blog post of this maxi series, I’ll be discussing how you can be more funny to get a girl to like you.
Related posts:
- How to Get a Girl to Like You – Don’t be the Friend (Part 2 of 15)
- How to Get a Girl to Like You- Be Ambitious(5 of 15)
- How to Get a Girl to Like You- Be Emotionally Vulnerable (Part 4 of 15)
- How to Get a Girl to Like You – Take Charge of Your Date (Part 7 of 15)
- How to Get A Girl to Like You – Know Your Core (Part 1 of 15)
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