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Reason Number 2: You Weren’t Ambitious Enough For Her
Ambition Turns a Woman On
Being ambitious is a huge turn on for women. The belief that money turns on a woman isn’t true. What is more important is that they are looking for a man who has goals and a mission in life. A man with ambition suggests to her that he’s also going to provide for her in the long run and that she will be taken care. This is absolutely vital to her. The last thing a woman wants to do is spend her time with a guy who’s going to be in his boxers, eating greasy potato chips and watching reruns of Simpsons everyday.
Without a Mission In your Life You’ll Feel Empty
Now you may not have a vision of your future. Nor know what your mission is. The good news is your mission in life will be fluid. It will change as you go through different phases in life. Finding your mission is what will ultimately give you passion and ambition to be more. Finding your mission itself is hard work, which is why so few men do it and why women find this particular trait attractive.
Without a clear understanding of what your mission is, and why you’re doing it, there’s going to be a feeling of lack in your life. Guaranteed.
She Has to Know You’re Going to Go Places
She needs to know that you’re going to go places in your life. A realization will hit her suddenly. She’ll have a flash of what life will be like five years down the road. If she imagines a great, wonderful and comfortable life, she’ll stay with you. If she imagines you doing the couch potato lifestyle, she’ll either dump you right then and there, or slowly think about it and wait for better guy to come along and sweep her off her feet and then dump you.
Take time to Find Your Mission
Ambition must start by having the drive to find out your mission. This takes time and patience. Your mission needs to be aligned with your values, or else you can be ambitious in the wrong way that can make you feel depressed and even at times unethical. Worse yet, you may wake up years later realizing you hated what you were doing even though you had a great job title and a lot of money.
For myself, I’m still struggling to find my mission in life. I’ve been struggling since I was 21 years old and graduated from university. Three days after graduation, I no longer wanted to be a math and social studies teacher. I then decided I wanted to be a life coach, and so I went for more schooling. Shortly after taking a Coaches Training Institute program and having some clients, life coaching was no longer as appealing.
I then trained to be a dating and conversation coach. Even now I’m trying to find out exactly what my mission in life is. And slowly I’m feeling attracted to teaching men how to find that one special someone in their life as my mission. Especially since my life has changed so much for the better since I’ve met my own girlfriend.
But ambition and mission are a fluid process. And ten years down the road my mission might change, and that’s okay. Every man must go through his own journey of learning and discovery. But a man with a great mission knows where he stands in life, and that’s what women respect.
My Girlfriend Would Have Dumped Me By Now if I Was Not Ambitious
I feel very blessed in my life. My girlfriend makes more than me at this moment. Actually considerably more, but one of the main reasons why she wants to be with me in the long term is because she sees how ambitious I am. She truly believes that one day I’ll be a millionaire and be able to provide her with everything she needs. And I hope I can. But she also warned me that if I ever lost the ambition I have now to be a better man in all aspects of my life, she would probably leave. Even though it would break both our hearts.
For women, it’s important for them to know you have goals in life you want to achieve. Take the time to ask yourself, are you being ambitious in the right way? Are you taking the time to forward your journey into discovering your mission? And when you do, women will find you absolutely sexy.
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