It takes effort to make a relationship work
Well, this list is for people who are in the early stages of dating but haven’t quite understood what it takes to maintain a relationship. I’m going share with you my top ten realities of being in a committed relationship.
1.Eventually the Honey Moon Phase ends. Then companionship takes over. Being great friends is hugely important towards having a long term committed relationship and is rewarding on a deep level.
2. You will drive each other nuts. And this can be about the smallest things. It’s important to discuss them, but laugh it off as well if it is something that seems ridiculous.
3. At some point you’re going to argue. I don’t know one single relationship coach that doesn’t admit to having mild fighting in their relationship. John Gray, the author of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus has them. Same with Tony Robbins.
4. Money will become an issue whether you like it or not. Love doesn’t conquer all. Sorry to say that, after all, you both have to eat and find a place to live.
5. Neither one of you can feel that you’re superior to the other person. This can lead to some bad mojo in the relationship. Respect each other.
6. Find a way to get along with his or her parents. It is tremendously helpful. Face it, if you plan to get married with this person, their family is attached unless the parents happen to be dead.
7. Your partner will never be exactly the way you want him to be. She’ll never be your “ideal” or “perfect” mate. Trying to change what’s fundamental to their life is not a good idea so that you get your “perfect partner.” You have to learn to accept things the way they are.
8. Share domestic duties. If you both work to pay the bills, then you both better work at cleaning the dishes together. I often cook for my girlfriend and she’ll help wash. This week she’s cooking for me, and I’ll be washing and grabbing some groceries.
9. You have to make time for each other no matter how busy you are. You might be busy, but your relationship still must be a priority in your own life, if you don’t then this isn’t called a commitment.
10. There will be moments when you look at your partner, and realize that you’re totally crazy about him or her. And you’ll never want to give up those moments. And those moments will be some of the best moments of your life. I love taking the time to look deeply in to my girlfriend‘s eyes and not say one single word.
What do you think I missed when it comes to the realities of being in a committed relationship? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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