In the last part of these maxi series we were talking about how to use flirting to get a girl to like you. In this article we talk about the importance of taking charge in planning a date to get a girl to like you.
This has got to be one of the most important aspects of dating and about being a man.
I can guarantee, that you, or someone you know has created this scene in real life.
Guy: “What would you like to do?”
Girl: “I’m not sure, what would you like to do?”
Guy: “Is there any place you would like to go or try?”
Girl: “I’m not sure, is there any place you think that would be good?”
When I see this conversation happen, it makes me cringe, because it’s turn off to girls and women. Women don’t need a man that’s indecisive. Women need a man that can take charge and be assertive and plan a date, or event. And when you can do those things, it shows you have strength. And inner strength is what will get a girl to like you.
Is it Possible to be Overly Considerate?
I know that when a guy is asking a girl what she wants to do, he’s trying to be considerate. He’s trying to be gentlemanly, and he’s the type that fits into the “nice guy” category. But there’s such a thing as being too considerate. Let’s imagine that you and the girl are waiting at a bus stop, you insist that she goes first, then she insists you go first, you continue to do that 2 or 3 times with each other. The bus driver gets impatient and eventually drives off. In the end nobody wins.
Being considerate is good, and it’s a character that is a must when you want to be with anybody in a long term relationship, but overdoing it can be hurtful. Too much of anything isn’t good.
Take Charge, Especially If it’s Your First Date Out:
If you’re talking to a girl over the phone and you’re trying to set up a date, ensure that YOU take charge and set up the date. You want to be able to get her to focus on the excitement of the date, not about the logistics, or where she needs to go, or what type of food to eat. If she has to worry about dealing with such small details then that means in her eyes you’re not a real man. What will happen when it’s time to buy a home, or plan out a marriage, or worse yet plan out the next date?
Yes it seems like it’s a bit of an exaggeration, but women will look at the smallest details and interpret them into bigger elements of whether you’re relationship material or even worth going on another date.
My Conversation with A Brunette Over the Phone:
I was on a phone with brunette one time, someone I had met after a Hallowe’en speed dating event. She was fun, gorgeous and was even nice enough to give me a book on our first date. I still have that book to this date.
During the first conversation, I asked her what she was doing on Thursday night, she said she wasn’t doing much. I go, “Perfect, let’s meet up at the Granville Room this Thursday at 8pm. I’ll see you there.” What she said afterward was a complete shock to me.
“Oh my gawd, that is so HOT.” I was a little puzzled. “Excuse me? You mean the fact that I set up our date?” I said with a bit of hesitation.
“YES! Too many guys I meet are always too polite, asking me what I want to do.”
I was flattered by the response.
She was a beautiful girl that was too used to dating guys that were too accommodating. She wasn’t looking for a chauvinistic guy that was going to make all the decisions for her, but she needed to know that she was going on a date with a guy who knew how to take charge.
She wanted to go on a date with a guy who didn’t feel intimidated by her beauty. In the end, no matter what kind of front women put up with men, they all want to date a guy that is emotionally stronger than she is. No women wants to date a guy who is more submissive. She won’t respect him.
What Can You do To Take Charge?
Next time you plan to ask a girl out on a date. Take charge of where, when, and what you’ll do. It’s that simple.
But this must be developped into a habit. If you only do it for the first three dates, then she’s going to see right through your laziness to plan dates. And you’ll get the “When we first started dating, you used to take initiative to plan out our dates, now you’re a fat lazy no good bum that watches TV all the time.” Well she won’t say it like that, but she’ll be thinking that. You want to develop the habit of taking charge of your dates.
But let’s say she decides that she doesn’t like the place you’ve offered to go on the first date. Then give her the option of choosing a place. If she can’t choose one, then give her three options to choose from. If she can’t choose, then make the decision for her, and assure her that she’ll have a great time.
Taking charge of a date isn’t the only way to get a girl to like you. Learning to take control of the conversation is just as important. If she ends up controlling most of the conversation, she’ll perceive that as a weakness and will eventually be turned off.
What do you think, do you believe that taking charge of a date is important to getting a girl to like you?
Related posts:
- 5 Warning Signs the First Date You’re On Sucks (Part 1 of 2)
- The Top Four Reasons Why She Dumped You (Part 1 of 4)
- 5 Warning Signs the First Date You’re On Sucks (Part 2 of 2)
- How to Get a Girl to Like You- Learn to Push and Pull (Part 3 of 15)
- How to Get a Girl to Like You- Be Ambitious(5 of 15)
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