I’ve met some male clients who were really good at attracting women on dates, and would be able to go on one or two dates, but they always seemed to have trouble of moving forward with their dates into developing a relationship. In the past I’ve noticed that the communication style for men that were successful in getting a fulfilling relationship were different from those that were always stuck in the dating zone.
Here are three ways to move away from the dating scene with a woman you find attractive and move into a relationship with her.
If you want to make sure that you move away from dating and into a relationship, you need to make a woman feel like a woman. A woman I met quoted “Sometimes I just want to feel like a little girl again.” She’s busy at her full time job, worried about what her female friends are thinking, and is constantly surrounded with different external pressures and hormonal changes that can fluctuate from week to week. But you need to make her feel like a woman, through flirting, appreciation for her values and her own personality, and making her feel sexy and gorgeous. And one of the best ways to make her feel like a woman is ensuring that you are verbally expressing appreciate her inner beauty to her to make her melt and have that feeling that she’s found her prince charming.
This allows her to feel that during her conversations that she you understand and connect with her for her real self. Any ordinary guy can see if a women dresses nicely, has a great smile, and that`s she funny. A real man will appreciate her values, her perspective and her vulnerabilities.
Talking to her as if she’s one of the guys is not going to work. She’s not one of the guys, and if you are going to talk to her like one of the guys on your dates, then what you’re really creating is a friendship. The male and female dynamics in a conversation are different and as men you need to recognize that.
You need to have conversations where you’re able to show your personal side. This doesn’t mean that you’re going to spout off every little detail about your life and then find out that after the first three dates you`ve exhausted every piece of information about yourself. Even in my current relationship of after dating for two years, I let the details of my life slowly pour out so that my girlfriend will find out some interesting and unexpected surprises along the way.
She needs to know what kind of man you are, she needs to know if you have ambition or if you have something that you truly believe in and you’re going to stand for. This is the victories that have happened in your life, but she also wants to know that you’re human. And you have to share some of your vulnerabilities about your life. This could be a childhood struggle you went through. Or this could be about how you were scared going on your first vacation in another country.
I made the mistake in my second year university of telling a girl I was attracted to on our first dates about how my childhood upbringing was not great. She was attracted to the honesty and the willingness to share, but I kept doing that again, and soon it became a nuisance for her to hear me that we no longer went out.
When a women understands your vulnerabilities and your strengths, this will help build a foundation of trust and honesty. There will be times as a man you will feel weak, challenged, and the person you’re involved in a relationship will ask you to articulate those thoughts. It’s important to learn how to do that early on for her to know for certain that you can express how you emotionally feel. Women love to be emotionally connected to their man.
Being funny is very important in dating and relationship. But it’s easy to be funny with certain pre-made stories, or other jokes that comedians have made before. But in order to get into a great relationship and away from dating, she needs to find your particular sense of humour…well, funny. Humour is what keeps conversations light, it makes her feel happy, and the funny conversations you have or the way you share your humour has to make her laugh. It makes relationships a lot more fun, and she’ll always find you attractive if she gets your humour.
Your humour has to be part of your realness. If you’re not the type to be like Robin Williams, then don’t. Keep your humour yours when you’re with her.
Sadly not all women may get your particular style of humour, and this can put a strain on your relationship. Realize that humour compatiblity is a key success to moving from dating into a relationship.
For more tips on conversation starters or emotionally connecting with others then visit http://www.conversationarts.com and try out the e-book Art of Conversation: Enhance Your Charisma for Success
Technorati Tags: attracting women, relationship, Woman, appreciation, conversations, Humour
Related posts:
Do you need help with Conversations, Making Friends or Your Dating Life?
