Hi Everyone, this is Vincent here again, I hope you’re all out there practicing 
conversation. I’m also hoping that you’re finding the blogs and the bits and pieces of information useful. So this particular entry is one that people seem to have trouble with which is how to do you engage someone with the questions you’ve asked. I’ve found that there’s a really simple answer, but it takes a little work to execute.
Not so Interesting Conversation Questions
People have been asked some of the exact same questions their whole life with some slight variations. These questions are generic and don’t get much of an emotional reaction from people.
These types of questions might be: “What’s your passion in life?” “What kind of hobbies do you enjoy?” “What do you do?”
The strange thing is that these questions on their own are BORING, but beneath the surface they are actually quite brilliant, only if you’re able to ask them in a way that a person has never been asked before.
Conversation Questions should be Delectable
It’s part of being charming and engaging. Imagine someone told you that a piece of chocolate cake you had was “good.” Then imagine someone said it was “delicious,” and now visualize another person telling you it was “delectable.” The third one, sounds so much better because we don’t often use that phrasing.
Questions are no different. You want to think of a way to ask a question but phrase it differently so that it becomes a refreshing new question.
Here are some examples:
Passion in life- “If you weren’t in the career path you are now, what would you love to do?”
Hobbies- “So what are some of the activities you do to that make life more enjoyable for you?”
What do you do- “Don’t tell me the title of your job, but tell me what’s the favourite part of your job right now?” (If they have a job, this could be a tough one given it’s a recession right now.
Take the time to think of all the questions that you could be asking, but rephrase them in a more interesting manner, and watch how much more people will want to be engaged in a conversation with you.
WAIT! Don’t forget your complimentary chapter from Art of Conversation: Enhance Your Charisma for Success.
How to Ask Great Questions, Answered.
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